In an age where our entire lives are conductible from our phones, dating apps are as convenient as eWallets. However, when was the last time you heard a great love story born out of “convenience”?
Here’s where online dating trips you up, and matchmaking makes for - well – a match made in heaven.
0 Catfishes.
If you haven’t heard of the term, “catfishing” describes a deceptive activity (usually in dating) whereby a person uses an alter-ego on a social media platform (E.g., online dating).
Broadly speaking, you might call someone a “catfish” if they’re using photos on their dating profile from a decade ago and no longer resemble their 2013 self.
Although it’s nice to bond with the person behind the photos, it’s unfair to build false expectations in a match’s mind regarding what the person they’re connecting with looks like.
This is where Matchmaking triumphs! Your matchmaker meets you and any of your potential dates in person, so she can verify both of your identities - squashing any disappointment or deception.
Tinder dating is like a lottery; it’s a numbers game. and, you might never ever win.
Matchmaking cuts out messaging.
You might have gotten caught in that annoying and endless loop of messages on social media or dating apps. Not only can this be frustrating, but IF you ever do get around to meeting, you’ve already discussed the ins and outs of each other’s lives, so there’s nothing new and exciting to discover before you’ve even met!
Worse still, you could get caught in an infinite virtual back-and-forth with someone on a dating app, invest lots of time into thinking up intriguing questions (and putting energy into responses in general), and it all comes to nothing. Maybe the recipient gets ‘cold feet’, just fancies a pen pal, or finds someone else – in person.
Or maybe you struggle with writing messages, and find it challenging to express yourself via a keyboard?
Regardless, that’s time you’ll never get back and time you could have invested in a ‘live’ date.
Matchmaking cuts that ‘talking’ phase out and gets you meeting real people.
Matchmaking is safer.
As your matchmaker has gotten to know a bit (or a lot!) about you, she has done the same with any of your potential matches. Therefore, since everyone is local, keeping a shady past/behaviour under wraps is pretty tricky. And even more challenging when you’re based on the Isle of Man.
That said, it’s always best to keep any dates close to your chest and get to know someone yourself, rather than going off anybody else’s previous experience with a potential match.
After all, you’ve probably learned lessons thanks to past relationships yourself, so it’s nice to enter into a judgement-free environment.
Matchmaking gets you off to a more “meaningful start”.
Whilst we’re on the topic of “vetting”, your matchmaker ensures that you’re paired with someone who has aligned expectations and goals from a connection as you do.
Rather than swiping through endless faces on a dating app (and treating your own species, with complex lives, as products of a ‘human catalogue', you are matches based on what will make your relationship go the distance.
Sure, it’s great to have that initial attraction to someone – but remember what a difference confidence can make to how someone holds themselves in person. Someone you might have turned down due to their dating app photos can blow you away in person, because you get to experience that authentic chemistry first-hand.
On the flip side, you might date someone who is an 11/10 in looks, but once you’re used to their face, you realise you don’t know how to make each other laugh, or have nothing to talk about. This is a huge flaw in online dating.
Online dating is overwhelming.
There is such a thing as “too much choice”, and, frankly, too many fish in the sea. You might actually find yourself an open person willing to give many people a chance - but then you don’t know where to start, whom to see, and you cannot keep track of all the conversations on the go at once! Again, this is where matchmaking is excellent for killing that stress and anxiety.
Since some of the decision is taken out of your hands, your options are narrowed down and much more suitable to your desires and lifestyle.
Whether you’re inspired to get help finding the right person for you or we’ve helped you find that right person, give us a shout and tell us your story.
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