When our confidence in our significant other has been shattered and we have to move on, how do
we let our guard down again? And should we?
It does take courage and can be scary to put yourself back out there, but so worth it to find the right person. What would/could you have done differently having this knowledge now?
Taking some time to evaluate and reflect on the lessons you've learnt is important to be able to steer in a different direction when faced with those challenges again.
It's not always clear at the time but there is always a reason for the challenges we face, even if it's just to make us stronger versions of ourselves. Being able to communicate your needs openly without fear of seeming needy is vital for healthy communication. We don’t know how best to support eachother without knowing what makes the other tick. Trust that each human is different and each relationship will also be different, not all people have the same morals/values and this is important to talk about aswell to make sure you’re on the same page. If any red flags do come up then these need to be communicated, and hopefully they can be understanding and put you at ease, their reaction good or bad will let you know whether you want to continue or not, you deserve to feel heard and respected. Being unattached to outcome is the best way we can protect ourselves in the early stages of dating. Being so happy in yourself that finding a loving relationship just adds to your happiness, it doesn’t define it! Keep making time for friends, family, hobbies, excercise, self care, all the things that make you happy and the centre of your own world. And remember that our happiness or sadness is a choice depending on how we think about a situation, and what meaning we attach to it. You’re whole and complete on your own!
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